I grew up in a apartment with an abusive Mom.
I feel that I got pretty fortunate because I only had to deal with him for 10 years of my life before he was out of the picture.
My mom, on the other hand, was married to him for about 25 years. Throughout that time he controlled nearly every aspect of his life. He determined where he was allowed to work, how he was allowed to dress, and who he was allowed to associate with. With all of that in mind, I have tried to be the exact opposite kind of husband to my husband. I never forbid his from doing a single thing, although I feel some of his social associations are not superb for us. In particular, his best buddy is a really downside influence when it comes to our quarterly bills and family finances. I am sure that his buddy has no idea how much he impacts our quarterly utilities, heating and cooling maintenance costs, and indoor air quality overall. She really doesn’t understand how influential he is when he discusses his professional heating and cooling maintenance appointments. However, I can tell you that his reliance on the central heating and cooling maintenance shop down the street has really rubbed off on my husband and created problems. It seems like my husband’s best buddy is always having his indoor air handling devices checked and upgraded. As a result, my husband tends to call our heating and cooling business way too often. I cannot stop my husband from interacting with his best friend… But I wish he would take the Heating and A/C professional off his speed dial.